Today I am having my blog over to the lovely Megan from Dittrich Diary. She is a blogger and vlogger, who is a Mum to two boys and stepmum to 3. She has kindly today offered to talk about her experiences with postnatal depression and mental health.
I don’t have any problem admitting that I suffer from Depression and Anxiety but after the birth of my second son at 32 weeks, I struggled to admit I was suffering from PND. It was such a hard issue for me to admit as I was determined that I had to be strong and that I couldn’t crumble. Despite also suffering from birth trauma, I still found myself masking the PND and just crumbling when nobody else could see.
It took me a while, but this wasn’t healthy for me, the baby, or my family and luckily, I released that before anything bad happened. Mental health has such a stigma attached and people are ashamed, worried and most of all they think it makes them weak.
I thought all those thoughts myself and I must admit that I also thought that if I asked for help then social services would get involved. I want to tell you the reader, that nobody will judge you, nobody calls social services for depression or anxiety and the doctor more than likely has been in your position and they can relate.
You Are Not Alone
If you didn’t know this already then, this fact might be a surprise to you, globally there is more than 264 million people of all ages who suffer from depression. About 264 million people around the world, have anxiety disorders and Depression and anxiety are the most common mental health problems in pregnancy and post-pregnancy. They affect 10-15 in every 100 women.
Depression, Anxiety, and Mental Health issues should never make you feel like you are broken, less of a person, less of a parent, a failure, or an issue to people. Seek help and speak to people, doing counselling was the best thing I did for my mental health and taking tablets has greatly improved my life. I didn’t get on with my first set of medication, so I went back and changed onto something else, and I have to say with my whole heart that it balances me out. It stops me getting panicky and restless and it stops the voice in my head that says I am useless.
Ask for Help
I have been fighting with both depression and anxiety since my teens, but it took until I was around 25 to get some help as I just thought I was weird or broken and that nothing could fix it. I didn’t realise that all those feelings I was bottling up had a name and honestly it felt amazing when I felt more ‘normal’ and less like I had a black cloud over my head 24.7. Without my support network around me and my medication I wouldn’t be here right now as my depression took me to some very bad places over the last 15 years.
We all fight many battles a day and most of them nobody will ever know about unless we talk and speak to people. The last 3 years has taught me that we need to be there for each other, we need to talk, and we need to stop saying “I’m fine” when we aren’t. Text a friend, drop someone a Facebook message and just make sure people know you are there for them and find friends who are they for you too,
Help and Support
If you need someone to talk then please check out these charities below: